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“She Was the Spark Behind the Songs”: Merle Haggard Reveals the Untold Role of Bonnie Owens in His Greatest Hits and the Heartbreaking Goodbye That Followed

Introduction

In the world of country music, few songs have touched hearts as deeply or lingered in the memory as long as Merle Haggard’s “Today I Started Loving You Again.” What many may not realize, however, is that behind the song’s aching melody and timeless lyrics lies a deeply personal story—a story of love, creativity, and the lasting connection between two people who were once husband and wife.

In the late 1960s, Merle Haggard was in a creative surge. He had just married Bonnie Owens, a woman whose quiet presence and steady support would help shape some of the most iconic songs in country history. According to Haggard himself, Bonnie wasn’t just a muse—she was an active participant. “If I even indicated that I was going to write,” he once said, “she was there with a pad and a pen… there wouldn’t have been no Mama Tried or Working Man Blues if it wouldn’t have been for her.”

Their partnership was more than romantic—it was artistic. In one particularly prolific year, either 1968 or 1969, Haggard had six songs win BMI awards, and Bonnie had taken down the lyrics for each one. But the moment that would give birth to “Today I Started Loving You Again” was unexpected, and oddly simple.

After a long tour in Texas, the couple had a rare week off. While waiting at the Los Angeles airport, Merle turned to Bonnie and said, “Today I’ll start loving you again.” Bonnie, ever perceptive, replied, “What an idea for a song.” That casual moment—spoken almost in passing—would become the seed of something immortal.

Weeks later, while playing at Dewey Groom’s Longhorn Ballroom in Dallas, Haggard found himself caught up in a rough night—a long gig, a heated argument, and general exhaustion. Back in the hotel room, sitting in his shorts on the bed, he asked Bonnie to fetch him a hamburger. While she was gone, inspiration struck. Grabbing the nearest thing he could find—a torn paper bag—he wrote out the first draft of “Today I Started Loving You Again.”

Though the song would later be trimmed and refined (one extra verse was never used), it became one of Haggard’s most enduring works. He gave half the song’s rights to Bonnie as a gift. After their divorce, she was awarded another half. “Today I Started Loving You Again,” Haggard often noted, made up nearly half of his royalty earnings.

Despite their separation, Merle and Bonnie built a friendship that lasted until her death. One of the most touching moments in Haggard’s recollections was visiting her during the later stages of Alzheimer’s. She didn’t recognize him directly—but took him by the arm, led him to a room where a photo of them hung over her bed, and softly said, “He’s my favorite.”

That memory, like the song itself, speaks volumes. “Today I Started Loving You Again” was more than just a hit. It was a heartfelt confession, a moment captured in time, and a lasting tribute to the woman who helped bring it into the world

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HE DID NOT WRITE HIS BIGGEST HIT. BUT DAVID ALLAN COE WAS THE ONE WHO TOLD STEVE GOODMAN IT WAS NOT COUNTRY ENOUGH. By 1975, David Allan Coe had already made Nashville nervous. He had the prison stories. The long hair. The rhinestone suits. The biker energy. The habit of walking into country music like he had come from somewhere the industry did not want to explain. He could write songs that Tanya Tucker took to No. 1. He could make Johnny Paycheck sound like a working man ready to burn the whole place down. But Coe still needed a hit with his own name on it. Then Steve Goodman brought him a song. It was called “You Never Even Called Me by My Name.” Goodman had written it with John Prine, though Prine did not want his name on the credit. The song sounded like a country record, but it was also laughing at country records — all the lonely men, the old heartbreak lines, the whiskey, the rain, the famous names, the desperate need to sound sad enough for a jukebox to believe you. Goodman thought he had written the perfect country-and-western song. Coe disagreed. On the spoken introduction to the record, Coe told the story his own way. He said he wrote Goodman back and explained that no song could call itself the perfect country song without a few things in it: mama, trains, trucks, prison, and getting drunk. Goodman took the challenge. He sent back one more verse. The new verse packed every one of those things into the same disaster — a drunk son, a mother getting out of prison, a pickup truck, a train, and a rainstorm. It was so overdone that it became brilliant. Not because it was realistic. Because it understood exactly how country music had built its own mythology. Coe did not write the song, but he knew how to make it his. When he recorded it for Once Upon a Rhyme, he did not sing it like a novelty act trying to get a laugh. He sang it with enough wounded pride that the joke had a bruise underneath it. He named Waylon Jennings, Charley Pride, Merle Haggard, and Faron Young inside the song’s world — then turned the whole thing into a barroom mirror held up to Nashville. Released in 1975, it became David Allan Coe’s first Top 10 country hit. David Allan Coe did not need to write “You Never Even Called Me by My Name” to own it. He only had to recognize that the joke was really about all of them.

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THE SEAT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE WAYLON’S. HE GAVE IT AWAY TO A SICK MAN. HOURS LATER, THAT PLANE CRASHED — AND COUNTRY MUSIC GOT ONE OF ITS HEAVIEST SURVIVORS. Before Waylon Jennings became Waylon Jennings, he was Buddy Holly’s bass player. Not the outlaw yet. Not the black-hatted voice that would later push Nashville until the walls moved. Just a young Texas musician riding through the frozen Midwest on the Winter Dance Party tour, playing behind one of rock and roll’s brightest names, trying to keep up with a schedule that was already wearing everybody down. The buses were cold. The jumps between towns were brutal. Musicians were sick, tired, and half-frozen. Buddy Holly finally chartered a small plane after the Clear Lake, Iowa show, hoping to get ahead of the road for once. Waylon had a seat. Then J.P. Richardson — The Big Bopper — was sick and miserable from the flu. He did not want another long ride on that freezing bus. Waylon gave him his place on the plane. It sounded like a simple favor in the middle of a hard tour. A tired man needed the seat more. Waylon took the bus. Before they split, Buddy joked with him about the bus freezing up. Waylon joked back about the plane crashing. Then the plane went down. Buddy Holly died. Ritchie Valens died. The Big Bopper died. Pilot Roger Peterson died. Waylon Jennings lived because he had given away his seat — and carried the weight of that joke for the rest of his life. That kind of survival does not leave a man clean. Waylon went on, but not as somebody untouched by it. The road after Buddy Holly was not a straight line into stardom. There were years of trying, drifting, radio work, club work, label pressure, and Nashville trying to fit him into shapes he did not belong in. But something hard had already been burned into him. By the 1970s, Waylon stopped asking Nashville for permission to sound like himself. He fought for control, used his own band, cut records with the dirt still on them, and helped make outlaw country feel less like an image and more like a refusal. The seat he gave away did not make him famous. It left him alive. And years later, when that voice came out dark, stubborn, wounded, and impossible to polish, it sounded like a man who knew exactly how thin the line was between a bus ride and a funeral.

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HE WAS STILL TRYING TO ESCAPE HIS FATHER’S SHADOW. THEN HE FELL 500 FEET OFF A MOUNTAIN — AND CAME BACK WITH A FACE COUNTRY MUSIC WOULD NEVER FORGET. Hank Williams Jr. was born with a name that did not feel like a gift. It felt like a job. His father was already a ghost bigger than most living men. Hank Williams had died when his son was still a child, but the voice, the songs, the hat, the legend — all of it stayed in the room. For years, Hank Jr. was pushed toward that shadow. Sing your father’s songs. Sound like your father. Stand where he stood. Carry the name without breaking it. By the mid-1970s, he was trying to become something else. The music was getting rougher. Southern rock was creeping in. Charlie Daniels, Toy Caldwell, Chuck Leavell — those kinds of players were around him. Hank Jr. was starting to hear a sound that did not belong completely to his father anymore. Then came August 8, 1975. He had gone to Montana after finishing work on an album. Up on Ajax Peak, the ground gave way beneath him. Hank Jr. slipped on an icy ledge and fell hundreds of feet down a jagged slope. By the time help reached him, the damage was brutal. His face and head were shattered. The young man who had spent his life being measured against another man’s image no longer even had his own face intact. The recovery was not a clean comeback montage. It was surgeries. Pain. Silence. Learning to live inside a body that had been broken open. Doctors worked to rebuild him. He had to fight his way back toward speech, toward singing, toward the stage. When he returned, he did not look like the old Hank Jr. The beard came. The dark glasses came. The hat stayed low. Some of it covered the scars. But after a while, it became more than hiding. It became armor. And the music changed with him. The man who came back from Ajax Peak was not interested in being polished into his father’s echo. He leaned harder into country rock, blues, honky-tonk, and outlaw attitude. “Family Tradition” did not run from the Williams name — it dragged that name into a fight and made it his own. “Whiskey Bent and Hell Bound,” “A Country Boy Can Survive,” and the rowdy anthems that followed turned him into something Nashville could not simply file under nostalgia. Before the fall, Hank Williams Jr. was still trying to prove he was not just Hank Williams’ son. After the fall, nobody could mistake him for anyone else.

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HE DID NOT WRITE HIS BIGGEST HIT. BUT DAVID ALLAN COE WAS THE ONE WHO TOLD STEVE GOODMAN IT WAS NOT COUNTRY ENOUGH. By 1975, David Allan Coe had already made Nashville nervous. He had the prison stories. The long hair. The rhinestone suits. The biker energy. The habit of walking into country music like he had come from somewhere the industry did not want to explain. He could write songs that Tanya Tucker took to No. 1. He could make Johnny Paycheck sound like a working man ready to burn the whole place down. But Coe still needed a hit with his own name on it. Then Steve Goodman brought him a song. It was called “You Never Even Called Me by My Name.” Goodman had written it with John Prine, though Prine did not want his name on the credit. The song sounded like a country record, but it was also laughing at country records — all the lonely men, the old heartbreak lines, the whiskey, the rain, the famous names, the desperate need to sound sad enough for a jukebox to believe you. Goodman thought he had written the perfect country-and-western song. Coe disagreed. On the spoken introduction to the record, Coe told the story his own way. He said he wrote Goodman back and explained that no song could call itself the perfect country song without a few things in it: mama, trains, trucks, prison, and getting drunk. Goodman took the challenge. He sent back one more verse. The new verse packed every one of those things into the same disaster — a drunk son, a mother getting out of prison, a pickup truck, a train, and a rainstorm. It was so overdone that it became brilliant. Not because it was realistic. Because it understood exactly how country music had built its own mythology. Coe did not write the song, but he knew how to make it his. When he recorded it for Once Upon a Rhyme, he did not sing it like a novelty act trying to get a laugh. He sang it with enough wounded pride that the joke had a bruise underneath it. He named Waylon Jennings, Charley Pride, Merle Haggard, and Faron Young inside the song’s world — then turned the whole thing into a barroom mirror held up to Nashville. Released in 1975, it became David Allan Coe’s first Top 10 country hit. David Allan Coe did not need to write “You Never Even Called Me by My Name” to own it. He only had to recognize that the joke was really about all of them.

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THE SEAT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE WAYLON’S. HE GAVE IT AWAY TO A SICK MAN. HOURS LATER, THAT PLANE CRASHED — AND COUNTRY MUSIC GOT ONE OF ITS HEAVIEST SURVIVORS. Before Waylon Jennings became Waylon Jennings, he was Buddy Holly’s bass player. Not the outlaw yet. Not the black-hatted voice that would later push Nashville until the walls moved. Just a young Texas musician riding through the frozen Midwest on the Winter Dance Party tour, playing behind one of rock and roll’s brightest names, trying to keep up with a schedule that was already wearing everybody down. The buses were cold. The jumps between towns were brutal. Musicians were sick, tired, and half-frozen. Buddy Holly finally chartered a small plane after the Clear Lake, Iowa show, hoping to get ahead of the road for once. Waylon had a seat. Then J.P. Richardson — The Big Bopper — was sick and miserable from the flu. He did not want another long ride on that freezing bus. Waylon gave him his place on the plane. It sounded like a simple favor in the middle of a hard tour. A tired man needed the seat more. Waylon took the bus. Before they split, Buddy joked with him about the bus freezing up. Waylon joked back about the plane crashing. Then the plane went down. Buddy Holly died. Ritchie Valens died. The Big Bopper died. Pilot Roger Peterson died. Waylon Jennings lived because he had given away his seat — and carried the weight of that joke for the rest of his life. That kind of survival does not leave a man clean. Waylon went on, but not as somebody untouched by it. The road after Buddy Holly was not a straight line into stardom. There were years of trying, drifting, radio work, club work, label pressure, and Nashville trying to fit him into shapes he did not belong in. But something hard had already been burned into him. By the 1970s, Waylon stopped asking Nashville for permission to sound like himself. He fought for control, used his own band, cut records with the dirt still on them, and helped make outlaw country feel less like an image and more like a refusal. The seat he gave away did not make him famous. It left him alive. And years later, when that voice came out dark, stubborn, wounded, and impossible to polish, it sounded like a man who knew exactly how thin the line was between a bus ride and a funeral.

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HE WAS STILL TRYING TO ESCAPE HIS FATHER’S SHADOW. THEN HE FELL 500 FEET OFF A MOUNTAIN — AND CAME BACK WITH A FACE COUNTRY MUSIC WOULD NEVER FORGET. Hank Williams Jr. was born with a name that did not feel like a gift. It felt like a job. His father was already a ghost bigger than most living men. Hank Williams had died when his son was still a child, but the voice, the songs, the hat, the legend — all of it stayed in the room. For years, Hank Jr. was pushed toward that shadow. Sing your father’s songs. Sound like your father. Stand where he stood. Carry the name without breaking it. By the mid-1970s, he was trying to become something else. The music was getting rougher. Southern rock was creeping in. Charlie Daniels, Toy Caldwell, Chuck Leavell — those kinds of players were around him. Hank Jr. was starting to hear a sound that did not belong completely to his father anymore. Then came August 8, 1975. He had gone to Montana after finishing work on an album. Up on Ajax Peak, the ground gave way beneath him. Hank Jr. slipped on an icy ledge and fell hundreds of feet down a jagged slope. By the time help reached him, the damage was brutal. His face and head were shattered. The young man who had spent his life being measured against another man’s image no longer even had his own face intact. The recovery was not a clean comeback montage. It was surgeries. Pain. Silence. Learning to live inside a body that had been broken open. Doctors worked to rebuild him. He had to fight his way back toward speech, toward singing, toward the stage. When he returned, he did not look like the old Hank Jr. The beard came. The dark glasses came. The hat stayed low. Some of it covered the scars. But after a while, it became more than hiding. It became armor. And the music changed with him. The man who came back from Ajax Peak was not interested in being polished into his father’s echo. He leaned harder into country rock, blues, honky-tonk, and outlaw attitude. “Family Tradition” did not run from the Williams name — it dragged that name into a fight and made it his own. “Whiskey Bent and Hell Bound,” “A Country Boy Can Survive,” and the rowdy anthems that followed turned him into something Nashville could not simply file under nostalgia. Before the fall, Hank Williams Jr. was still trying to prove he was not just Hank Williams’ son. After the fall, nobody could mistake him for anyone else.

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BEFORE NASHVILLE EVER CALLED HIM A SONGWRITER, DAVID ALLAN COE HAD ALREADY WRITTEN SONGS BEHIND BARS. David Allan Coe did not walk into country music looking clean. He came from Akron, Ohio, with a past that followed him like a file folder nobody wanted to open. Reform schools. Trouble. Prison time. Years spent living on the wrong side of every respectable door. Before Nashville knew his name, Coe had already learned how a man sounds when he is locked up with nothing but memory, anger, and a song that will not leave him alone. He was not the kind of artist Nashville liked to introduce politely. When he came out, he did not soften himself into something easy to sell. The hair was long. The clothes were loud. The attitude was half-biker, half-rhinestone cowboy, and all outsider. He looked like a man who had brought the parking lot into the studio. In 1973, Tanya Tucker took “Would You Lay With Me (In a Field of Stone)” to No. 1. She was still a teenager, but the song sounded older than her years — tender, strange, almost like a graveyard promise dressed as a love song. Coe had written it, and suddenly the man with the prison past had a song sitting at the top of the country chart. Then Johnny Paycheck cut “Take This Job and Shove It.” That one did not sound tender. It sounded like a work boot kicking a factory door open. Released in 1977, it became Paycheck’s signature hit, a blue-collar line people could yell when they did not have the nerve to say it for real. Coe wrote the sentence. Paycheck made it famous. America did the rest. For a moment, Nashville had a problem. The man they could not clean up kept handing them songs they could not throw away. Coe tried to stand in the spotlight himself, too. “You Never Even Called Me by My Name” made him a cult hero. “Longhaired Redneck” sounded like a challenge. “The Ride” turned a ghost story with Hank Williams into one of his most lasting records. He was funny, mean, wounded, theatrical, and sometimes impossible to defend. That was the thing with David Allan Coe — the legend never came without the trouble attached. He was not merely playing outlaw. He had lived enough damage that the image did not feel like costume. But the same wildness that made him believable also kept him dangerous. His career never settled into one clean legacy. There were hits. There were controversies. There were loyal fans who swore he was one of the rawest songwriters country ever had. There were others who could not separate the music from the mess around it. Maybe that is why Coe never fit safely inside Nashville history. He wrote songs too strong to erase. And lived a life too jagged to polish.